Up to 60% of men pretend not to hear when they were asked to do chores. As part of the minority 40%, I don't understand how this is possible.
My wife says I am a 80 percent man, ie, I take care of 80 % of the to do list. Initially this was a revelation to me and felt bad about not being 100%. But once I accepted this , it was of great help, especially at work. Whenever a nurse or colleague asked me why I didn't do something, I revealed that I could do only 80% and that job was in the 20% unimportant category.
There was new found respect from colleagues who admired the 80%, most of whom could barely manage 50%. Female nurses compared me with their husbands , again could not be close.
Boys of our class , be men and reveal your percentage of tasking. Maybe its time for Rasputin or Killio to comment on this so that we can at least know if you are a male or female.
Prabhakar
Prabhakar
ReplyDeleteYou have really opened a can of worms. Of all the issues, you had to start this one. How about 95% of non-tasking for me Is this acceptable?
You have probably started a moaning blog with this.
Hi Prabhakar
ReplyDeleteyou are great to be 80% man. Rupa always complains that I need to get my ears checked. One of my senior consultant in my first job at Uk taught me the art of "switching off".
I am definitely better than Raghu's 95% of non tasking but definitely not close to your 80% of tasking.
Come on guys reveal your percentage ?
Hi Meenakshi thanks for your comment and I am very pleased to meet you in the reunion.
Hi Jayalakshmi
Thanks for reminding me the poem Solitary reaper by WIlliam Wordsworth. I also felt the same of not knowing Seetha Lakshmi even though we were in the same college for 5 years. The reunion definitely provided an opportunity to know our batch mates better.
Prem
Raghuram,
ReplyDelete95% of non-tasking..?OMG!! what do you do?Vipassana yoga???
And you wonder if it's acceptable!How do you get away?
Latha, you and I need to have a chat.
Prem,
"switching off" is not a learned technique, I think you guys were born with that inherent survival mechanism.
Jeyam,
Thanks for the wishes. How about you? What does Manu think?
Prabhakar clooney Devavaram,
What are you doing, stirring up trouble in the female nurses' household.....?
Meenakshi
Prabhakar, look at what you have done. You have indeed opened a can of worms!Any way, you set the bar high with being at 80%. For his part, Raghu also set the bar high at 95% for the non taskers.And Prem is safely treading the inbetween range of 5 - 80. Raghu, Iam shocked, NOT by the 95% non taski%ng, but by the 5% tasking!Latha, this is the perfect opportunity to break your silence & enter the blog!Come on, speak up.Waiting to hear the others' numbers.
ReplyDeleteKalyani
Belated birthday wishes for meenakshi. hope you had a nice day.
ReplyDeleteRegarding the 80 % -
How do I factor in chores carried out for the neighbour's wife ?
Is is straightforward addition ?
kALYANI, MEENAKSHI AND PREM
ReplyDeleteWHAT DID YOU SAY?!!!!----i DIDN'T HEAR
RAGHU
I know.. I know calculations are difficult. Hence this formula :
ReplyDelete{OW + (2 X NW)}X 4
--------------------- Gives you an inflated %.
2
NW - stands for neighb.r's wife - I am sure you could work out the rest. Enjoy.
pls don't take this seriously folks !!
Vinod Chandran,
ReplyDeleteYour calculations are all messed up.
Get ready for some serious subtractions and division,your OW is working on a better formula.
Thanks for the b'day wishes.
Raghuram,
Enjoy what little is left of your "hearing impaired"days. You are going to start hearing
LOUD&CLEAR pretty soon.
Meenakshi
Dear friends
ReplyDeleteI think my percentage is 60%(doing house hold chores), 40% not to hear when i am watching movies, cricket etc.,
Ravi
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ReplyDeleteSorry Raghu.Will post a new blog today.
ReplyDeleteGuys,
ReplyDeleteLet me also join in and tell you where I stand..
before that Belated birthday greetings to Meenakshi and thanks a lot friends for your comments on my thoughts re Seethalakshmi...
I am a big picture guy and a great delegator :)...I dont fuss over such details as tasks & chores
jokes apart- I would have given myself the average score, but today- I was "given" three tasks by Nandini and did them all - I am a good subordinate...:)
Kumaran
This 80:20 rule is quiet interesting. It is applied in a variety of settings. People say you can do very well achieving 80% target. I have always been amazed, at how efficient is 20:80 rule and how much you can achieve with 20% target both at work and home.
ReplyDeleteHere are some simple rules for those who want to be 20% man.
1) Chores are fine if it doesn't take up too much of your free time.
2) Why do anything today that can be done tomorrow?
3) Never put off until tommorrow what you can forget about entirely.
4) There are three ways to deal with Chores; Ponder, delegate, doubt
5) Chores are the greatest thing in world, So we should always save some of it for tomorrow.
Natesh
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ReplyDeleteHow about the chores for the girls,what percentage are u girls(?)
ReplyDeleteI am a 50/50 person ,meaning half my chores will be boomeranged to my hubby to finish except cooking, which I won't risk giving to him.
Prabhakar
ReplyDeleteYou are worse that Indian Film Censor board. Even they have started allowing lip to lip kissing in Indian Movies and Yet you are censoring a genuine, innocent and very relevant question that I have asked to benefit a wider community? Grow up. And by the by, sex education is taught to kids when they are 7 years old. So I do not understand your objections to these anyway. You will be sadly mistaken if you still believe kids do not know what we are talking about.
I am trying to revise my scores by asking these genuine questions and yet you fail to see the relevance of it.
So your Honour, (Ganam Courtrar Avargale !!!)I immediately demand publication of my question in the blog. If you sustain my objection, I will rephrase my question and this needs to be answered.
Raghu
Hi Prabhkar
ReplyDeleteI am intrigued why Raghu's comment was removed. Hi Raghu dont upset our leader. Try phrasing r comment/ question in a more decent way.
Natesh i like your 20% rules.
Prem
Kumaran,
ReplyDeleteYou've got it all figured out.
"You're right ,honey" is the key.
Thanks for the wishes.
Rationalizing 20% and making it sound good,.. someone ought to be running for president.
Premalatha,
Fair division of labor is our goal.
Who does more (or claims to do more)is in dispute,will let you know shortly when we reach a reasonable consensus.
Raghuram, Prabhakar and Mathi,
WHAT IS GOING ON...?
Meenakshi
Meenakshi its a EVE'S world out there - even my comments supporting ADAM get censored . Prabakar needs his chromosomes reanalysed .
ReplyDeleteI feel Prabhakar is talking about the MAH score.
ReplyDeleteMAH being - Mallipoo And Halwa score.
You see, don't do much chores, but don't forget the MAH and your score will quadruple. Easy !
I know.. Mallipoo isn't very upmarket, but this is the closest thing to get Max. marks.
may be i wll use small print
ReplyDelete''god created man : you cant mow the lawn wth a vibrator''
Prabhu,
ReplyDeleteWhat have you done??
You certainly have opened a can of worms. I guess it depends on a number of factors, from which day of the week it is to what you have done recently etc. For sure women have good long term memory, especially if you have forgotten something. So a number of factors may influence what your wife might say (in percentage terms).
Meenakshi I will let Manu answer your question as I may be biased in my view.
Jeyam
So Prabhakar
ReplyDeleteI have rephrased my lyrics to get you out of the hook? Hope this is acceptable
Wise Guy Prabhakar, has opened the can of worms
It has made people like me squirm
To change the score, what do I have to do?
Take the kids to the Vandaloor Zoo?
Does the percentage change, with regular MD game
Increase if we play the same with the neighbour’s dame
Or should I try Mallipu, Halwa or Golconda Wine?
When the whole world is affected by flu from the Swine
Of all the things, you had ask this one
Now Meenakshi is ready to shoot me with a double barrel gun
How come our swamiji nakantha '' naga '' has gone all quite - i think his india trip has made him to attain nirvana ( offcourse not when i was with him in madras ) - its probably prem's fault ? maybe shall call naga over the weekend.
ReplyDeletefedup whith all the mens role in family life yeah , yeah , yeah - we iron , we mow , we cook , we are our children's taxi drivers and still our better halfs expect more.
ReplyDelete''behind evey successfull men there is a women who is surprised ''
time- out for a new blog
Hi everyone,
ReplyDeleteWill move to safe topics in the next blog. Apology to Mathi and Raghu as well. Thanks for all the comments.
Prabhakar
ReplyDeleteNo offence taken. Apologies if the contents were offensive. But you must understand, knowing me for these many years any topic that you choose to put up, I will be coming up with some of my perverted views anyway. So my comments will contain a sexual slant to your blog posts. And you still have the right to censor them.
But do not start putting up boring blogs. Controversial blogs are good fun to see people's views.
Vinod's Mallipu and Halwa score was really fascinating. So was Natty's response to chores. If you had not brought this up, we wouldnt have known their views which match mine.
Regards
Raghu
Raghuram,
ReplyDeleteEnough already...
You're in double jeopardy.
Clooney has a job to do..
Let's not make much ado..
Your claim to fame,
is certainly not thro neighbor's dame.
P.S: I thought 80% was kind of high.
MAH? interesting perspective!
we are getting wiser and wiser by the day.
Meenakshi
Hey guys...
ReplyDeleteVery interesting topic indeed and even more interesting comments from you all.
Couldn't resist sharing my thoughts..
I think that 'not wanting to do domestic chores' is an exclusive Y chromosome trait and there is not a whole lot we women can do about changing it.
'Mallippu and Halwa score' just gives you men a false sense of guilt reduction...that's all.
The truth is...even if we never complained of headache ever, you men will still not VOLUNTEER to do chores...period! You may consider doing them, on asking, if you are in a good mood and have nothing better to do, and, that's as good as it gets!
But guess what...at the end of the day, it doesn't really matter who does what, so long as there is 'enough and equal' give and take between man and woman.
So....
Mathi & Co...love your neighbor but love your spouse more than your neighbor...everything will be just fine!
Banu.
Meenakshi...you rock!!
ReplyDeleteBad boy Raghu...I am truly impressed by your thinking and writing style. You've done a terrific job at summarizing the events of the reuinon. Can you please POST the one that you presented at MGM...especially for those who did not attend the reunion? I know that is a bit too long but we would love to read that and reminisce all over again....
Naga, RKR, Mohanan, Rasputin, Killio....c'mon guys...wake up...we want you back here..
Banu.
Wow, So much has been discussed in the blog in the past couple of days, when I was busy doing my 10% of the chores! Now, don't get any ideas, my husband is not a 90% man, but we have a 50% nanny/housekeeper. So you do the math.
ReplyDeleteVinod, MAH is so 80s & we are in the 21st century & mallipoo is not practical where we live. So how about replacing it with RAG score - Roses & Godiva?
Natesh, your take on the 20% man is hilarious.
Meenakshi,Your little poem has put you up with Ramzan in the "poetesses of our class" list.
And Raghu, what can I say, by apologising so profusely you lose the "Raghuness" in you.
And Mathi, If your wife sees your blogs, you'll probably be sleeping in the doghouse!
Kalyani
Kalyani,
ReplyDeleteI liked ur RAG score. Truly practical! Which girl won't fall for Roses?
Banu,
ReplyDeleteAre you the beautiful,female version of Dr. Phil? Gee,thanks.More wisdom for all of us.
Kalyani,
Say what you may," mallipoo and halwa" has more punch than "roses and Godiva" , and also
I'm no poetess.Poetry is just not my thing.
Mathi,
So I see Banu has given you her blessings...,Dont take it literally and go overboard.Big trouble,mister.
Meenakshi